Mommas, let’s talk about a struggle many of us have faced: dealing with someone who tries to twist reality, who insists on defining you in ways that contradict everything you know to be true. It’s a painful experience, one that leaves you questioning your own sense of self if you’re not careful.
The Manipulator’s Tactics
For those of us who have experienced manipulation, especially from someone close to us, the pain is profound. These manipulators are often masters of deception, weaving lies so intricate that they can make you doubt your own reality. They may insist that their twisted narratives are the truth, and if you don’t agree, they’ll claim it’s because you’re the one who’s confused or “crazy.”
This is a common tactic of abusers—especially those with narcissistic traits. They project their own delusions onto you, hoping to make you question your sanity. It’s a way to maintain control, to keep you off balance, and to isolate you from your own truth.
Recognizing the Tactics for What They Are
It’s essential to recognize these tactics for what they are: a form of emotional abuse. The goal is to undermine your confidence, make you second-guess your instincts, and ultimately control your narrative. But here’s the truth they don’t want you to hold onto: you are not defined by their lies.
When you start to see the patterns—how they twist words, how they try to rewrite history—you begin to understand that it’s not about you. It’s about their need to feel superior, their need to be right, even if it means distorting reality.
The Power of Knowing Who You Are
One of the most powerful defenses against this kind of manipulation is a deep, unwavering sense of who you are. When you know your own truth, when you are confident in your identity and your values, it becomes much harder for someone else to define you.
You are a beloved child of God, created with purpose and value. The lies that others try to impose on you can’t change that. They may try to paint you as the villain in their story, but that doesn’t make it true.
When to Stand Up and When to Walk Away
There will be times when you need to stand up for yourself, to correct the lies and set the record straight. But there will also be times when it’s wiser to walk away, knowing that arguing with someone who is determined to twist the truth is like trying to convince an apple tree that it’s a rock—it’s a futile exercise.
Instead of engaging in their game, focus on living your truth. Let your actions speak louder than their words. Surround yourself with people who know and love the real you, who won’t be swayed by the false narratives others try to spread.
Healing and Moving Forward
Healing from this kind of emotional manipulation takes time. It’s a journey of reclaiming your voice, rebuilding your confidence, and reaffirming your identity. Along the way, remind yourself daily of who you are and Whose you are.
Lean on your faith, knowing that God sees the truth even when others don’t. Trust in His justice and His timing, knowing that the truth will always come to light. And most importantly, never let someone else’s lies define your worth.
Final Thoughts
To all the mommas who have been through this battle, remember: you are not the sum of someone else’s twisted perceptions. You are strong, you are worthy, and you are loved. Stand firm in your truth, and let no one take that from you.