Dear Mommas,
Today, let’s talk about a topic that’s close to our hearts but often feels elusive: finding joy and rediscovering ourselves after trauma. The journey from surviving to thriving is paved with challenges, but it’s also filled with opportunities for profound personal growth and happiness.
Acknowledging the Depth of Your Experience
First and foremost, acknowledge the depth of what you’ve been through. Psychological, spiritual, verbal, and narcissistic abuse leave deep scars, and it’s essential to honor your feelings and experiences. Your pain is valid, and so is your journey toward healing and joy.
Embracing the Healing Process
Healing is not linear. Some days, you’ll feel strong and hopeful, while others may bring back painful memories and doubts. Embrace this process with patience and compassion. It’s okay to have setbacks; what’s important is your commitment to move forward, even if the steps are small.
Rediscovering Your Passions
One of the most beautiful aspects of healing is rediscovering what makes your heart sing. Start by reflecting on activities that once brought you joy. Was it painting, gardening, reading, or perhaps cooking? Reintroduce these passions into your life, even if it feels difficult at first. These small acts of self-love can rekindle a sense of purpose and joy.
Finding New Interests
Trauma often changes us in ways we might not immediately recognize. Be open to discovering new interests and hobbies. Try something you’ve never done before—join a dance class, learn a new language, or take up photography. Exploring new activities can be incredibly empowering and help you reconnect with yourself in unexpected ways.
Building a Supportive Community
Surround yourself with people who uplift and encourage you. Whether it’s friends, family, or support groups, having a supportive community is crucial. These individuals can offer empathy, share their own journeys, and remind you that you are not alone. Faith communities can also be a source of strength, providing spiritual support and a sense of belonging.
Practicing Gratitude
Gratitude is a powerful tool in the healing journey. Each day, take a moment to reflect on the things you’re grateful for, no matter how small. It could be the warmth of the sun on your face, a kind word from a friend, or a peaceful moment in prayer. Practicing gratitude shifts your focus from pain to the beauty in your life, fostering a more positive outlook.
Nurturing Your Spiritual Life
As Christian women, our faith can be a cornerstone of our healing. Spend time in prayer, meditate on scriptures that bring you comfort, and participate in worship. Let your faith guide you and provide a source of strength and hope. Remember, you are loved and valued by God, and He walks with you on this journey.
Setting Realistic Goals
Setting realistic and achievable goals can help you feel more in control of your life. These goals don’t have to be grand; they can be as simple as going for a walk each day, journaling your thoughts, or reaching out to a friend. Celebrate your progress, no matter how small, and give yourself grace on days when things don’t go as planned.
Embracing Your New Self
Trauma changes us, but it doesn’t have to define us. Embrace the new you—stronger, wiser, and more resilient. Look in the mirror and recognize the woman who has weathered storms and emerged with a deeper understanding of herself. Celebrate your growth and the incredible journey you’re on.
Finding Joy in the Little Things
Joy often comes in the little things—the laughter of your children, a quiet moment with a cup of tea, the beauty of nature. Allow yourself to fully experience these moments. Be present and savor the simple pleasures that life offers.
Moving Forward with Hope
Finally, move forward with hope. The path of healing and rediscovery is ongoing, but it’s filled with the potential for great joy and fulfillment. Trust that each step you take brings you closer to a life where you can thrive and shine.
Remember, you are not alone on this journey. Together, we can support each other and find joy in the midst of healing.
With love and encouragement,
Gemma